its ok to say no

Facts about sex I wish I knew when I was 12 years old

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You may think you’re too young to hear these things now but it should be programmed in your mind so when you are faced with these decisions, you already have the answers. 

Roll Me Over… oil on canvas by Kelly L. Taylor

First of all, it’s ok to say No. It’s your right to create boundaries. It’s your body and only you have the right to it. As soon as you learn to speak you should learn to say things like, “No, Uncle, I don’t want to give you a kiss” and “No, I don’t want to give that person a hug” and then “No, I don’t want to have sex.” You don’t have to always be polite. You don’t have to apologize. Anyone who loves you and cares about you will never pressure you or make you feel uncomfortable.

As soon as you start having your period, you are able to get pregnant.

It is your choice whether you want to have a baby or not; it doesn’t just magically happen when you get married or when you become a certain age. 

Pregnancy is caused by having sex. Sex means when he puts his penis in, on, or very near your vagina. 
Things that don’t prevent pregnancy: pulling out, just the tip, one foot on the floor, not having an orgasm, having sex while you have your period. Sperm are determined little things that want to create life. They can be secreted even before he comes (pre-ejaculate) and they can live inside the vagina for up to a week and still make you pregnant.

Always use a condom! Condoms prevent pregnancy, AIDS and other life-long infections.

Plan B is not the abortion pill; it simply makes you have your period, preventing you from getting pregnant. It’s easy and it doesn’t hurt. If you think you may have gotten pregnant after having sex, take the Plan B pill within 72 hours. Plan B prevents abortion. You can buy it at the pharmacy and you don’t have to go to a doctor.

Blow jobs do not make you pregnant, even if you swallow. They could, however, allow you to catch a nasty infection. 

Blueballs is not actually a thing. Anything a boy tells you to make you have sex is a load of bullshit. There is no medical (or otherwise!) reason a person has to have sex. 

Planned Parenthood is an excellent place to go for help. They are trusted professionals who will provide accurate information and services and you won’t get in trouble. They helped me when I was young and needed help. You can even just go to their website for info: https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/teens/ask-experts

Of course there are more facts, but this is a good place to start! 

By the way, have fun being a girl!

Self Portrait with Sock Monkey – oil on canvas by Kelly L. Taylor